Forgiveness – You have it. Now What?

I had to sit back and think about how so many people have been comfortable treating me so cavalierly and then setting me aside. The answer I came to: I forgave when they asked and forgot their transgressions without requiring anything from them. No expression of repentance, no sincere/specific apology and no attempt to make amends. I was always giving of myself and going home empty.

Now, I’m asking for something in my relationships. I want to be wooed. I want to know you’re not just after a comfortable foot stool or a quiet ear. I need to know you’re interested in contributing to and sustaining a relationship with me. I need to know I’m not in it alone.

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Question: To Forgive or Not to Forgive?

EVERYTHING that has come before and since falls under the directive of love. Love is the critical piece that works with forgiveness (for the transgressee & the transgressor). Love allows patience and provides compassion. Love covers every single sin you can imagine. The whole of God’s law is fulfilled when we practice love as instructed.

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Jared B.

Proverbs 27:12 says “As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.”

If we can’t be transparent with one another then there is no way we can grow (sharpen) each other.

If we are afraid to be transparent because of shame hidden away in our life then transparency should be an encouragement for us to move beyond what brings shame and into a beneficial and strengthening relationship. See Galatians 6:1 “Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted. Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.”

On the other hand if we are afraid to be transparent because of self-doubt or shyness then we may be robbing those around us of blessings and encouragements. 1 Corinthians 14:26 “What then shall we say, brothers? When you come together, everyone has a hymn, or a word of instruction, a revelation, a tongue or an interpretation. All of these must be done for the strengthening of the church.”

Your description of Christ is on the mark. He had little patience and was very blunt with those who should have, or professed, to know better. Yet, with the poor, sick, weary, and those truly seeking him he had compassion and kindness.

Your words are encouraging to me but also convicting. Nicely said, uhh Kindly said? Well put! :)

Private Email from Facebook Friend

I just read your note that you tagged me on. It was ON POINT…get out of my head!!! This last season has been such this way for me. God has put me in a position to be a blessing….and I hadn’t really realized it…I was just doing what I felt I was supposed to do. I have received in abundance the comments you were speaking of from your friend. I had an employee cry this week as she expressed to my team and executive board members what she felt that I had done for her and what an example she felt that I was to her.

To the point that I almost felt embarrassed….and it was that night in prayer that I had realized that I hadn’t yet learn how to receive. I felt like the Holy Spirit told me that I knew how to lose in the past, I knew how to survive and just get by, but now at this level he really wanted me to know how to win…and to recieve it and not keep it hidden. Afterall, I am his child I have been put here to be a blessing..and I am not ashamed of the gospel nor my salvation. THANK YOU!! Thank you….and continue to let him use you my friend!!!”

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Private message from a friend

“This morning, like the past several weeks, I’ve been out running before sunrise. Time permitting I’ve been reading a chapter or two from your book when I get back. I was going to text you this morning just to say Hi and wish you an encouraged and wonderful day but then one text message turned into two and since it was before 7 it seemed best to reconfigure the medium of communication and send it a little less indirect so you could look at it when both your eyes were fully open and you had consumed your morning beverage of choice (oj,tea,coffee).

The book is continuing to be a good read for me and from one single person to another a lot of what you say testifies to what is in my heart or the Lord is revealing to me about myself. On the other hand, there is a whole different list of ideas I look forward to discussing with you because for every thought that makes me want to say “Yaw, Heay Der I Know Watcha Mean, Yeah, Eh?” (I think that is Yooper for “Say it loud sista”) there is another thought that seems foreign to me. Anyway, that is a conversation that I look forward to at another time.!”

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